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Interesting and sadly paywalled for me. But based on this abstract alone, I wonder if we will stop medicating the youths for adhd in an effort to raise birth rates.
I was diagnosed with adhd on my own volition, it was extremely easy to fake “oh I can’t concentrate, it’s really having a negative effect on my social relationships, my education, and my career” they practically throw the drug at you. I think some people certainly have it with significantly impairing symptoms, but my own experience suggests to me it’s wildly overdiagnosed and that the medicine is overprescribed.
Use Sci-Hub to un-paywall it
I don’t believe that ADHD really exists. I think that Gabor Mate and the psychs he references are basically correct that it is actually just a form of anxiety or distrust, and inability to regulate emotions.
And, I think the inability to emotionally regulate comes from bad mothering, as Gabor Mate indicates. To some extent the mothering was a bit better before the time when behaviorist psychs started to tell mothers to neglect their babies, but I’d guess that caucasian mothers have always been terrible at taking care of babies, just based on my personal experiences.
That last sentence is quite a loaded comment, maybe you’re right, care to expand on it?
Basically, the women in my mother’s family speak about doing classic neglectful mothering things, like letting their baby “cry it out.” Women on both sides of my family complain about taking care of their kids. As kids get older, mothers are even more hands-off. They intentionally don’t help with homework, etc.
Many white mothers are surprisingly cold with respect to physical touch. If you’ve ever lived in an urban area near Asian and Hispanic people, you will notice that mothers walk hand-in-hand with young children, and usually arm-in-arm with daughters even in teenage years. This is just unheard-of for white mothers. Maybe they’d hold hands with a young daughter, but that it all they would do.
The question then becomes, “Why are caucasian women so cold towards their children?” Nobody else is.
The theory many psych types like to propose is that the Behaviorist school of thought in psychology taught women to be this way. This is especially important to relieve women from guilt, because people can (and often do) blame males as a gender for this huge failure on the part of white women, since the behaviorist psychologists were from a time period when all Academics were male. The behaviorists thought that babies and children had to be left alone to develop independence, responsibility, and toughness. However, I don’t think this is the full explanation. I highly doubt that the women in either side of my own family had ever heard of these theories, nor took parenting advice from any publication at all. I imagine that they all raised their children as their families always had for generations, and never tried to get expert opinion on the matter. So cold-mothering was probably around before Behaviorism. And, perhaps behaviorism merely codified what many people already believed.
Nordics are also known for not serving snacks.
I think the opposite of this is the so-called “black tax.” This is where Africans are forced to give up any money or goods they receive to relatives. If a man makes money selling fruit, his family hold out their hands and say gimme.
I think neglect and narcissism play a big role in Western excellence. So many geniuses were driven by the need for affirmation / revenge.
I do not believe that geniuses and most great people were neglected or treated terribly as a child. I’d put a great deal of money on the argument that they had better care and help than average. There will be more aggressive business people driven by rage, people like Ray Kroc who made McDonald’s become what it is today. But these men are not smart and do not do genius things. They just dominate others, take crazy risks (which sometimes luckily work), and often times do shady dishonest stuff to win.
The reason is that mental illness just is such a drag on one’s mental endurance, and such a distraction.
Stories of traumatic childhoods tend to focus on one bad relationship or event at the expense of a general picture of good relationships and interactions. Every Asian complains about racism, but the reality is that they have like one racist experience through their entire lives, but also have amazing schools, amazing parents, an unshakable confidence that they are innately superior, and positive affirmation from most white people, even.
I also certainly do not believe that the Nordic countries have a greater history of excellence than Italy. The Nordic countries have achieved very little through history, Italy has done a ton. Nordic countries “contributed” perhaps less to “Western Civilization” than many Eastern European nations. Even the “stupid Pollacks” had a great deal of great mathematicians. Nordic countries “look” great because of wealth, but their wealth is entirely a result of “natural resources” a.k.a. gas. They are just the UAE/Qatar of Europe.
I see.
Interesting. My mom is not so much distant emotionally, but my dad is to a slight degree, not that he is a bad father. I think this is an Anglo thing? My dad also may be on the spectrum like me.