Behind every mask is a face. Eventually we all see the cracks in the mask. Perhaps you are currently so deeply wounded that detachment no longer feels like a performance or mask to you.
I’ve heard that inside a neurotic there’s a calm core and vice versa.
Perhaps your radicalism is being witnessed. You are either fully attached or fully detached but this radicalism is exactly why you stand out. Most people are balanced lukewarm averages. In this sense, you are observably unique.Your authentic self is inherently compelling. The radicalism is just how that self manifests.
Perhaps it’s not your detachment that makes you charming.
Perhaps you, yourself, at your core are simply charming.