This is a good video
In the past half-year, I’ve been meditating on how much of my social anxiety is due to simply not knowing what to do. Not knowing exactly what to say, or how. Not knowing what to do with a pretty female since I hold on to vain hopes that maybe, just maybe, I could hit and quit (you can never hit and quit).
Imagine how much social anxiety could be relaxed if we all knew a safe way to just behave ourselves in most situations.
One more really great thing about etiquette. It makes people be outwardly-focused. This is not obvious - you will understand from watching the video. And, the only way to cultivate it is to insist upon people that they think of the feelings of others and make it your responsibility to maintain a pleasant atmosphere for everyone around them.
Now, it is not hard to see why etiquette died. It died because it contradicts the imperatives of free-dumb. Also, it can be construed as repression, which we’ve been told caused the Holocaust. And last but not least, Jewish media and mass culture promoted this concept of “coolness,” which was sort of opposite of propriety, and they flooded us with shows such as Seinfeld where prim and proper people (in addition to many other types of people) were made to look absurd and useless in comparison to Jerry Seinfeld in his blue jeans. A lot of this media stuff also had a powerful synergy with African-American culture, and they sort of fed off of each other; it’s not clear if this “too cool for propriety” culture would ever have existed if not for the NYC Yankee Bohemian tradition, starting in the early progressive era, of lionizing the Afro-Harlem culture.
Speaking of that Seinfeld thing. You know the most infuriating part of it? The Jewish elite is fairly comfortable with various concepts of manners and polish, and they are quite polished, themselves. Yeah, Zuckerberg is probably not as polished, and he tries as hard as possible to reject it (like so many other Jews), but IRL he is still, almost certainly, far more polite than probably any middle-class white gentile I knew in my childhood.
While the elite is mannerly and polished in various ways, they keep the knowledge of the mysteries of manners and modern social etiquette to themselves. They do not try to transmit this life-hack to the people. They evidently do not want to help people; rather, they want to hurt people by promoting laxity, selfishness, and absent-mindedness.
The elite of our current society is obviously inferior to the elite of a true European or Asian society, which attempts to raise up the people of their country, because they care at least a little bit.