https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/
Link above states how not being helped with unspoken chores is a moral imperative being wronged.
However it’s not really about the chores. It’s an intellectually dishonest argument meant to propagate classist ideals at the expense of their loved ones.
The basic hygiene is met and is nowhere near the verge of a biohazard. However the argument is presented as though it is a completely utilitarian and even moral necessity ignoring the underlying need for ritualistic chores.
“The silverware has to polished daily otherwise we live like animals.”
“Having a 10 dollar rug instead of a 1,000 dollar rug means we live like animals so now we have to go pick one up immediately.”
Ritualistic chores are unpredictable to the independent mind yet they are treated like they are completely and obviously predictable.
I find it funny that individualistic cultures that fetishize independence so much can’t seem to break away from the judgment of their peers. Life is a stage and even if your audience (your peers) are not currently watching the show you are in constant preparation for a show they will attend. One would think if your peers cost so much performance tax you would drop as many as you could. You know, do the independence thing you all love much. In this system the feelings of your cashier literally means more to you than the feelings of your spouse. Which is funny because…
•Your cashier will not going to pick up dinner for your when you sick.
•Your cashier will not visit you in the hospital.
•Your cashier will not hug you.
If you can easily drop someone who does something for you, then why not drop the people who don’t do anything for you, as well?
Capitalistic societies can’t admit to you, that your worth in society is a salary so it tells you your worth is agreeability. You become so devoted to being agreeable, to being a good citizen, to “being a good person”, that you’ve slowly become a perfect consumerist and you haven’t even realized that your life has become transactional. You’ve traded friendship for therapists. You’ve traded romance for sex work. You’ve monetized intimacy.
I’m reminded of Mildred Montag. Mildred follows the demands of her peers so dogmatically that she snitches on her husband to the state. What is happening here is the same concept. We expect propaganda to be intimidating while isolating critical information however our propaganda instead presents itself as harmless self-help while isolating the family unit. Instead of snitching we voluntarily isolate ourselves. When we isolate we lose second opinions. We lose that critical information. Information instead, is only served directly to us from approved sources.