Later I will be talking about this most depraved people.
Ok, so France is definitely a narcissistic society. From reputation and personal experience, there is something deeply wrong with these people. They are very nasty, reactive people, very pretentious and condescending. They’re more than willing to throw good friendships away if it means that they can win an argument, get in a few quips.
Clotaire Rapaille
One thing that really surprised me is that they like to interject in French to try and intimidate you. Utterly bizarre.
There are tons of stories of French being rude and abusive, not just to tourists but to people who live there. For example in French schools, teachers regularly humiliate students in front of the class. Authority means that others are at the mercy of your good graces, and so waiters mistreat paying customers, there’s a slovenly and inefficient bureaucracy..
French people also infamous for failing to bathe or (in the case of females) shave their armpits. And they also don’t really like to work. Sam Vaknin has pointed out that narcissists are always on low battery because of how exhausting it is to maintain an image.
The funniest part about this clip is when the king first says “Hello” and gets ignored.
Another interesting tidbit is that French always like to reframe their rudeness as a cultural difference. For example, they will reframe their bluntness as “honesty” – as if to imply that you are too sensitive, you can’t handle the truth, you’re inauthentic etc.
Or, you have the case of staff being rude to customers. The staff will argue that “you are a guest” and that you have to follow their rules. That actually, you are the one who is rude for not understanding this.
One time, a French girl started viciously insulting me and she rationalized this by saying that “Kindness =/= niceness. I’m being kind to you.”
This is classic DARVO.
I agree.
I want to interject however that Euro/Western culture tends to create narcissists due to various cultural factors. One is the judgmentalism (and lack of goodwill) of Western culture - this judgmentalism buckets everybody into winner and loser categories. But more important is the emphasis on “coolness“ which is, here in the year 2025, utterly suffocating.
To be “cool“ is a fascinating topic. There is a scientific study on it: Scientists define six traits that make a person ‘cool’ – and they transcend borders | The Independent
But I really think that one of the key basic things that gives rise to those six attributes of coolness is the love of oneself. It’s just impossible to be extroverted, powerful, autonomous, etc. without thinking of oneself as awesome.
And self-love also is correlated with happiness. Therapists are always trying to make their patients love themselves in hopes that it will “cause“ happiness to emerge.
So we just have to wonder - is this focus on coolness actually causing narcissism? Imagine, the most confident young kids growing up in this milieu, driving themselves to adopt the strongest form of the desired cocky mentality. Rap music assists in generating cockiness - music is like a neurofeedback device. In addition to the willful embodiment of coolness which increases incidence of narcissism development, perhaps there is also a lowered willingness to punish narcissism when we notice it. So we are burning at both ends - creating more narcissists, and fixing fewer narcissists, due to coolness-culture.
I’d guess that the narcissistic French type knows exactly what they are doing, and they surely believe that their way of life is actually right. They likely think that people should be cocky and snobby, as this leads to confidence, self-love, etc.
I’d guess that the narcissistic French type knows exactly what they are doing, and they surely believe that their way of life is actually right. They likely think that people should be cocky and snobby, as this leads to confidence, self-love, etc.
That’s exactly the impression that I get. But it’s just DARVO. The French learn that the abuse is helpful and then they go and do it to others. A cycle of pain.
From Malignant Self Love:
So, the narcissist’s aggression wears many forms. The narcissist suddenly becomes brutally “honest”, or bitingly “humorous”, or overweeningly “helpful”, or sexually “experimental”, or socially “reclusive”, or behaviourally “different”, or finds yet another way to express his scathing and repressed hostility. He often labels such thinly disguised aggression: “tough love”.
The narcissist’s favorite sadistic cocktail is searing honesty coupled with “helpful advice” and “concern” for the welfare of the person thus brutalized. The narcissist blurts out, often unprovoked, hurtful observations. These statements are invariably couched in a socially impeccable context. Apart from “anger management”, the sadistic narcissist also requires “truth management” to teach him how to contain his impulsive and offensive “honesty” and “directness”.
Examples of deliberately offensive forthrightness: “Are you aware that you have bad breath/crooked teeth/ blemished skin? You will be much more popular if you treat it”; “You are really too fat, you should take care of yourself, you are not young anymore, you know, who knows what this is doing to your heart”; “These clothes do not complement you. Let me give you the name of my tailor…”; “You are behaving very strangely lately, I think that talk therapy combined with medication could do wonders”, and so on.
The French sexual evolutionary strategy seems to be presenting as cool. Cool is any behavior which portends growth / good luck.
If you’re a cave dweller, it’s a good idea to follow or be attracted to a man who has something good going on in his life. But cool isn’t something that should be a cultural obsession, because it easily becomes narcissistic. Narcissistic societies are abusive, and abuse dooms the society. It creates a country of whores, pedophiles, and girlish men – who hate everything.
When the Parisians say that they’re the “City of Love,” what they really mean is that their love is more special and sophisticated than yours. And that, they are more special and sophisticated than you. In reality, there is no love in this city. Because the French are not “coconuts,” they are rocks. They are rageheads who flip over cars.
The French are always lying about their culture. They will say that they make diners wait to “relax and enjoy the atmosphere.” But then you watch this video and it’s a fucking lie.
Notice how the French are known for their sexual deviancy. This is further evidence that the culture is traumatizing.
Apparently every dot on this map is a castle. Clotaire Rapaille once theorized that French are closed off because of their medieval history.
A self-cleaning toilet in France has been going viral. This is so fundamentally French: not only does it show you how lazy they are, but the intrigue that makes the toilet unique is how it helps the workers – not the customer.
It seems that French culture is highly eccentric, but in a performative way.
https://www.reddit.com/r/PoutineCrimes/
For example, they like to severely criticize Americans for making poutines wrong – even though it is a stupid dish.
I think the culture is highly driven by the mechanics of “cool.” Their eccentricity is not organic.